Identity and the sense of self

I asked where it comes from, this feeling of being a man. Because there is Tobiasz in the family. Before that, Kamila. My brother Grzegorz’s daughter. When she turned eighteen she moved out and said she was transitioning. Grzegorz declared that he had never had a daughter. That he had nobody to speak to. That Tobiasz had ceased to exist for the family. Only for the family. Not for me. We sat at the table and nobody said anything. A forbidden subject. An adult who had made a decision about their own life — and the whole family applauded his