I wanted to clean up my intentions. To do something for my wife — only for her. But I notice that underneath there is always something tagged on: so that she owes me something. So that I get closeness in return. The algorithm said this is not about cutting yourself out of the equation. More about separating: this I am giving as a gift, and this is my need, which I can state plainly. A simple test before acting: if I get absolutely nothing after this gesture — not even a smile — do I still want to do it? If yes: the intention is closer to clean.
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